When/What to tell a date about a separation/divorce?
I’m a 26 year old woman going through a separation that will end in a formal divorce in a few months. We’ve been together for over 9 years, married for 2 of them, 0 kids, but own a house. We both want things to end amicably and are being very cordial to each other. I have moved out of the house (though he’s storing a lot of my things for me until things are final [I’m paying him a “storage fee” too]). We set the rules of separation to be 6 months and no restrictions on dating for either one of us. I have gone through my emotional turmoil, and I can confidently say that there is no possible way I would ever go back to him.
I’ve gone on a great first date with someone and will have a second tomorrow. Obviously, I haven’t told him that I’m going through this because it’s not really first-date info. Should I tell him my situation on the second date? How much info is enough? Neither of us are looking for anything serious, but I do like him and want to see how it goes…
If I were you, I would probably get it out in the open, just because it will relieve alot of the pressure to eventually talk about it.
He doesn’t need to know any more information than that you are separated/divorced. It’s sort of awkward to really dish out the details anyways.
But do whatever you feel comfortable with. I mean, it’s not crucial to tell him about it the first few dates. Especially if you’re not in a serious relationship yet.