After 16 years of marriage, when is enough, Enough?
We’ve been married almost 16 years. We have 3 children (16, 14, 12). My husband is a good father but an AWFUL husband. Here’s an overview
He got a DUI a month after we got married. We’ll work thru that, part of a hard-working marriage
He has been physicaly abusive since a year into our marriage but my mother has been married and divorced 9 times (I no longer speak to her for other reasons – not important to this). So, I was determined not to fail. The abuse has stopped since the affair
He had an affair in 2004 with a co-worker. He said at the time that he didn’t know what he wanted. I made him quit that job for my own sanity. I forgave him (I think)
In 2006 He got another DUI
In 2007 he got convicted for misuse of credit card (from his employer) He was getting gas in his car (I asked if he had clearance for that, he said yes – bologna)
Also, he has had 30+ jobs in 16 years. I have been self-employed for 10 years.
I love him but idk if I want to continue to work on this.
It would have ended for me when he had the affair.
You are not your mother. And no one would expect you to live like that especially when you have 3 children in the household that he is giving a bad influence to.
I was married for 18 years (2 children) similar situation. My mom was married 3 times. I like you wanted to try and not end up like my mother.
But I did finally divorce my husband, got 2 jobs , raised our children alone. Kept the house, bought him out, paid off my car and was happier then I had ever been in my life.
A little over a year after the divorce I met a great guy (wasn’t looking) . Dated him for 7 years and married him at age 45. He was 40.
We have just celebrated 22 years together and 14 years married. We are very happy and I am so glad I left my husband and moved on.
Best of luck to you and your family.