dedicated husband and father needs divorce advice.?
I think my wife wants to leave. I don’t want to break up my family, and I have tried just about everything, counceling ext… but she does not even try to make it work.
I told her If that is what she wants I will take 100% responsibilty of or 3 year old son. all she has to do is support herself. we have about 10,000 dollars in debt, witch she should be half responsible for. We have been married for 6 years, and she has stayed home with our son for 3. I wish we could work this out, we had a good marriage, and I love her more then anything. I don’t want to fight over my son, both are good parents, and want to raise and see him as much as possible. but right now I am looking for advice if we do divorce.
Divorce IS hard on kids. There’s no lying about that. My parents divorced when I was two. My first husband and I divorced when our child was 1 1/2. The important thing to do is always do what’s in the best interest of the child. The divorce isn’t there fault so don’t let them feel as though it is (tell them it’s not their fault). Another important thing to remember is that children often feel as though they’re in the middle of their parents with each pulling an arm. Please, don’t do this to your child – regardless of who gets custody. My parents did nothing but fight and as a result, I listened to nothing but put downs about the other. Don’t do this either. Regardless of how you feel about your “ex,” this person is still your child’s mother and they don’t need to hear all the negative.
As far as custody goes, you’ll want to seek the advice of a lawyer and petiton the court of custody. Unless she doesn’t want the child and agrees to let you have custody, or there’s a good reason for her not to, most courts will award custody to the mother. This isn’t your fault and doesn’t mean the court thinks your a bad father. Just be there for your son, pay child support, and visit and call as often as you can.
I’m not sure what kind of advice you’re looking for so I hoped this helped. Good luck! I hope you marriage works out.
In the meantime, do what you feel is right. If you’re not ready to give up on your marriage yet – then don’t.